“The work of grieving is the hardest work there is. It is lonely, sickening and exhausting. Grief is the price we pay for love. It is the highest price.”
—Rabbi Earl Grollman
“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life's search for love and wisdom.”
—Rumi
On campus
HDS Office of the Chaplain and Religious and Spiritual Life
- 207-208 Divinity Hall
- Phone: 617.496.7540
- kmaloney@hds.harvard.edu
Life Raft
A weekly deep-listening drop-in group that meets during the academic year, Life Raft is for any HDS student who is carrying a burden such as grief, worry, chronic illness, despair, or stress of any kind and is seeking a place to be seen, heard, and honored. Facilitated by the Chaplain and the Chaplain Interns. Life Raft is not a therapy group but a space of recognition, regard, and respect. Students in need of clinical services are strongly encouraged to reach out to CAMS at HUHS in addition to utilizing such supplemental supports as this group.
Denominational counselors
The HDS Office of Ministry Studies employs part-time denominational counselors who serve the needs of several particular faith communities at the Divinity School.
Harvard chaplains
Harvard Chaplains is the umbrella organization of 38 chaplains representing 26 of the world’s traditions, united in their commitment to serving Harvard’s diverse student communities.
Harvard Counseling and Mental Health Services (CAMHS)
Bureau of Study Counsel
The Memorial Church Grief Group for Students
The Memorial Church holds a Grief Support Group for students each term. The group is limited to 10 participants. If you are interested in being a part of the Grief Support Group, please contact the Reverend Alanna Copenhaver at alanna_copenhaver@harvard.edu or 617.496.1426.
Off-campus
The sites below are maintained by organizations external to Harvard Divinity School; their inclusion here does not necessarily imply endorsement by HDS.
Mount Auburn Hospital Bereavement Support Groups
Mount Auburn Hospital offers three eight-week-long bereavement support groups series a year. Each series will meet for eight Wednesday evenings, 6–7:30 pm in the Clough Conference Room.
Any adult who has experienced the death of someone close is welcomed. Participants have experienced the death of a spouse or partner, child, sibling, friend, or other relative. Contact
Beth Loomis, director of pastoral care, at eloomis@mah.harvard.edu or 617.575.8606.
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
The Compassionate Friends (TCF) of Boston: Supporting Family After a Child Dies
- Meeting information: first Tuesday of each month 6–7:30 pm
- Trinity Church of Boston (Parish House, Lower Level Room A)
- 206 Clarendon Drive, Boston, MA 02116
- tcfofboston@gmail.com or 617.539.6424
VNACare
Bereavement support groups are offered several times a year in various locations. There is no charge for the group, but registration is required.
Online
- On Point, WBUR: How We Grieve January 2, 2015 (episode)
- GriefNet.org: An internet community of people dealing with grief, death, and loss
- Actively Moving Forward (AMF): College students supporting one another in grieving the illness or death of a loved one
- GriefShare.org: A website that provides listings of local grief support groups
- The Dougy Center: The national center for grieving children and families
- Center for Loss and Life Transition: Articles and book excerpts
- Hold the Door for Others: A detailed PDF workbook on “Finding Your Way Through Loss and Sudden Adversity”
- Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC): Resources on coping with loss
- Help Guide: Coping with Grief and Loss
- Hampshire College’s Grief Resources Bibliography (PDF): Extensive bibliography of books organized by subtopic and audience
- Six Tips for Dealing with Grief and Loss in Recovery
- HealGrief
- ModernLoss
- The Grieving Person's Bill of Rights
- Helpful Tips for Grieving College Students
- Helping Children to Cope with Grief
- Emotional Healing After a Miscarriage
- Grief.com
- COVID Grief Network for Young Adults (20’s and 30’s)
- Dealing with Grief and Bereavement: National Association of Nursing Home Attorneys
- What’s Your Grief
- The Dinner Party: 20’s and 30’s
- Compassionate Friends: Death of a Child
- Resources for Bereavement and Grief: The Memorial Church of Harvard University
- Grief Following the Death of a Loved One due to Substance Use Disorder